Life is made up of compromises. In every kind of relationship, we have to compromise one way or another: whether it’s with your partner, your friend, family members or work colleagues. It can be as minuscule as going to Pizza Express because your friend wants pizza but really you want Nando’s; or as life altering as not taking an opportunity because you would be too far away from your partner.
I had a boyfriend when I was at university who lived back home. He couldn’t deal with the distance so I decided to go home every weekend. Commuting 3 hours home was a serious commitment and cost a lot of time and money. At the time, I wanted to do it. But by doing this, I was compromising my uni experience and it has resulted in me feeling like I didn’t make the most of this once in a life time opportunity.
I truly believe that you shouldn’t have regrets because at the time, the decision you made you felt was the right one and you shouldn’t question that. Regrets should just be lessons learned. I’ve learned that at this point in my life, I have to come first.
In our early 20’s, a lot of us don’t have responsibilities that come later in life, like children to think about or mortgages to pay. If we wake up in the morning and want to quit our job and go travelling, we can and should do it. As soon as we don’t do something because of someone else, we are compromising our growth as people.
People can walk out of your life just as easily as they walked in. The one person that will always be there is yourself. This is why you should be selfish in these years because if you’re not and you do or don’t do something for someone else, you’re setting yourself up for a life of unacheived dreams.
I’m not saying when your friend wants Chinese and you want Indian (sorry for all the food comparisons – you can tell I was hungry when I wrote this!) to be stubborn and unreasonable – no one wants to be around that. But when getting into any kind of relationship – friendship or romance – it should be because that person enhances your life, supports your dreams and goals and ultimately, makes everything more fun.
A compromise is when you settle and at this point in my life I’m not willing to leave anything unfulfilled and settle for anything less than what I want. This tiny little window of opportunity to do this is closing every day as we grow older and gain more responsibilities. So put yourself as number 1 right now because compromising too much can hinder living your life to the fullest.
“Make yourself a priority. At the end of the day, you’re your longest commitment.”